How to talk to your kids about dating after divorce
Children have many feelings about their parents’ divorce. For children, there is often a strong desire for a reconciliation between you and their other parent.Your children may perceive a new person in your life as someone who could not only interrupt that reconciliation, but interfere with your time with your them as well.Truth be told, younger children (under age 10) may feel confused, angry, or sad because they tend to be possessive of their parents.
My best answer is to take your time dating after divorce and don’t introduce your new love to your kids if you are dating casually.
The reasonis simple: A child's own identity is very much tied to that of his family.
When the family disintegrates, achild's sense of self is threatened, even if he maintains strong ties to both parents.
• Give your children time to adjust to their new situation.
Sometimes parents try to take care of their own feelings of loss by dating shortly after beginning to live apart, but this is one of those times when considering the needs of your children should be a priority.
As frustrating as this can be, your son's behavior is quite natural. If he's just gotten used to you and his father not being married, he might now fear that a stepparent will further complicate things and take up your time.